Some of you may have read my tweet about my 二舅舅 passing away~ & my parents are currently in KL, Malaysia with my Mom’s family.. My uncle was cremated yesterday~My Mom just told me my uncle’s story.. & I really am deeply moved and inspired by it so I’d like to share it with you too! (:
My 二舅舅 was born with his right eye half the size of his left eye, and he was an extremely intelligent person, but mixed with bad company when he was young. He met and married his wife slightly more than 10 years ago, who divorced her ex-husband who ill-treated her. She had 2 daughters. My uncle was more than willing to accept the 2 daughters, and he loved them as his own. The 2 daughters are now 20 & 22~ around my age! Then, they had a baby girl called Li Jing. (晶 = crystal~ my Mom was saying she was surprised because her name is similar to mine o.o) Shortly after Li Jing was born, my uncle had a massive stroke and he went into a coma. He stayed bed-ridden ever since.
When Li Jing was growing up, she never had the chance to speak to her daddy in a normal environment, because he was always bed-ridden. She understood at a very young age that her mommy had to take care of her bed-ridden father, and she’s a very obedient, independant and sensible girl. She’s a little timid, but very cheerful. She doesn’t worry her mother, and she even works hard in school, being the #1 in her class! Her mom says that she inherited her daddy’s genes xD Just before my uncle died, Li Jing talked to him and told him to go peacefully and not to worry about anything.. (made my mom cry when my 舅母 told her this) And guess what? Li Jing is only 11 years old. My Mom says that my 二舅母 always glows whenever she talks about Li Jing~ I feel like she’s a special little angel sent by God to that family ;D
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud. - 1 Corinthians 13:4
二舅母 selflessly took care of her bed-ridden husband for more than 10 years.. she couldn’t get a job and work because she had to always stay home and take care of him. I really admire and respect her, because.. imagine having to take care of a husband who needs such care, and having to take care of 3 growing children at the same time too. Or in my Mom’s words.. how did she stay sane?
The last time my Mom visited him was when he was in a hospital in KL.. after that she only got updates about him from her siblings. She regrets not doing even more for him, but she’s not going to focus on that but to do all she can for his family now. Because my 二舅母 had to take care of her husband & children, my Mom and her siblings have been supporting them financially and my Barney舅舅 (my mom’s youngest bro, we call him uncle barney haha it’s true!) has been really generous, not only looking after their needs but also going to visit them from time to time~ (they live in Karak, quite a distance away from KL) He bought Li Jing a computer and is paying for her internet connection ;D
As for the other 2 girls, my aunts and uncles do treat them as family, although we aren’t blood related.. or in my Mom’s words.. “I still regard them as ohana (family).” They are Taoists, but my Mom is pretty eager to share the gospel with them gradually… I am praying for them!
So.. I’ve never met 二舅舅 nor his family before.. not even once.. but their story really touches me. Barney舅舅 is encouraging them to come visit Singapore, and if they really do, they’ll be here in December. They have no idea what it’s like to be in an airplane.. even going to KL and staying over at my 大舅母’s house is already a huge treat for them ;D Hopefully they will come, and of course, I will be their guide and bring them around heh heh heh~ I really want to meet this family I never knew! Especially my special little cousin with almost the same name as mine kkk~ I think their story is really moving, so much love, unconditional love coming from a poor and humble family. I really want to do a short film on their story… I might just do so heheh.. kind of reminds of the video I did on the nenek in Borneo and her late husband before ;D
I hope this story also moved and inspired you as well~ always treasure your loved ones and never take things or people for granted!
You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them. - Desmond Tutu
